Love

Those that have spend to long talking about it.
Those that had it spend to long lamenting it.
Those that have never had it down play it to them selves in there mind.

Is it truly better to have Loved and lost that to never loved at all? At least with the never loved at all one can live in a world of self-deception free from the aches of the heart? Surely to have had Love and lost it would be to have never had true love at all?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

1 Corinthians 13:4

Love never fails....And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13:13

Love is always. So if it is always then true love is eternal. So if "love" flickers and disbands. Then was this "love" true? was it there ever? Was that feeling really love? Or is everyone responsible for this love. We are the misguided and foolish youth, growing up on British pop songs and romantic comedies. We don't understand life, and we never will.

Is understanding what is important, does it bring happiness or is bliss the happier past. One of my friends when I joke to him about girls, and oh she's cute she works where you wok maybe you should try to get to know her. He always responds with anger. Is his anger from a deep sense of refusing to become aware? Or is it from a truly pessimistic view of the world? Where nothing ever works out as planned. Which is true to a point. I would say, nothing ever turns out as planned but sometimes things are better than you can ever imagine. Sometimes things suck.

A new Focus day.

Today at my school we had Christian Focus day. A day where we put aside our regular school classes, go somewhere else and go through a number of sessions designed to present us with a christian perception of key life issues facing us today.

Today was about Alcohol, Abortion, STD's, and biblical investigation into Love and Lust.

The alcohol one, was nothing that new, it just presented us with stats why alcohol shouldn't be so avaliable, it was presented ok, even though the guy presenting it looked like a smaller nervous Nicolas Cage. I was surprised that when he asked people in my group who thought the legal drinking age in New Zealand should be raised to 20 I was the only person who raised my hand. I see alcohol hurting my friends, and it's partly to blame for some events in my life that have hurt me. I do think that my life and that of my peers would benefit from Alcohol being avaliable later in life to us.

Abortion, was more about the growth of a baby from conception, and it challanged us with what we believed, things like when is a Fetis a person, when is it alive. Things that I hadn't really ever considered until now. I'm still not sure if I'm certain of how I would awnser those questions. I was shocked to find that in NZ abortion is legal for severe disabilities up to 40 weeks. Which is right before the baby is born so obviously; my government believes life begins at birth.

STD's was gross, we saw pictures and were told about the dangers of different STD's, I already new that I didn't want to be a person that would fool around with people or kiss strangers. Now I have another reason to up hold my morales, and belief and hopefully help me abstaine until marriage. (something thats probably quite easy to say after a break up)

The Love and Lust one was the one I found most interesting, I don't know why but I voluntered to go in the Love group. I was curious to what the bible says about Love. We ended up reading some of the Songs of Solomen, and interupting it as best we could hoping to find a big picture. We found that God created sex to be beautiful for us. When it is done with one person that we Love with all our heart and mind and soul, that then Sex with complete Love is beautiful. I also learned that Love is strong, Love is shy, Love is selfless sacrifice.

At the end of the Love one I was feeling down, until I realised something that should help me get through this hard time. Love is selfless sacrifice, I know I love someone and want to show them that, but I have been struggling internally about what I want, because at the moment I'm not what they want. This means to truely Love them I must let go, not be selfish and want them, because this will not bring me happiness, if they're with me and don't feel the same back. I have already experienced that during a period of time where most of our relationship was lust. All it brought both of us was pain. I must move on to show my Love for my ex. For leaving them and letting them be happy with someone else is True Love, even if its not the Romantic Love I dreamt of having with them.